10 Tips for Writing When You Don’t Want To (a guest post by Emily Wierenga)


I’m so thankful and happy to welcome my friend Emily T. Wierenga to share today.

We both write for The Better Mom website and our friendship over these past few years has been such an encouragement from God…


From Emily–

I pin the colored fabric as though savoring a mango, this slice of time so sweet, and the sounds of children splashing in the pool. And all I want is to rest. To open wide this moment and step into it, to sit on a beach chair and hold my babies and breathe in their skin, and funny how, once you get what you want, all you can think about is the other.

But I am learning to write, in spite of myself.

Because I want to honor the call.

But I also don’t want to miss out on my children. Nor the man I made them with.

So how do we do it? How do we balance the laptop with the laundry and the liturgy?

Here are 10 tips:

1. Write when you feel most alive. (be it morning, before the kids wake up, or in the evening, after they’ve gone to bed, snag those seconds, those minutes, and let those fingers fly)

2. Don’t over-think it. Just write. Edit later. Stephen King has some good stuff to say about this in his book, “on writing.” I don’t read his fiction, but my husband does, and says the guy knows what he’s talking about.

3. Don’t read the same kind of genre you’re writing in, or you’ll get your own writing voice mixed up with someone else’s. So if you’re writing fiction, read non-fiction, and vice-versa.

4. Drink or eat something while you’re writing. I drink coffee in the mornings and snack on raisins or chocolate throughout the day. This fuels the mind and keeps the stomach happy.

5. Give yourself rewards. For example, write for 15 minutes, and then go hug your babies. Or write for 15 minutes and then spend 5 minutes doing something restful or invigorating.

6. Surround yourself with inspiration. My friend constantly mails me encouraging quotes and artwork; if you’ll notice in the final photo, I have posted these quotes and pieces of art above my desk to provide visual stimulation.

7. Work in a quiet place. Find yourself a haven, even if it’s a closet, and close the door and write. I wouldn’t use music, because silence allows you to “hear” the characters, or God’s spirit directing the words you need to say.

8. Choose a certain number of words per day, and stick to that word count. You will feel so productive when you’re done. Just focus on getting down 500 words, or 1,000, or 2,000, and then quit for the day, and enjoy the outdoors.

9. When you’re done, choose a varied team to share your work with: friends who you know will encourage you, friends who will offer constructive criticism, friends with a sharp eye, and then those who are just acquaintances and can offer some sort of un-biased perspective.

10. Pray as you write, as you edit, as you rest. Pray through it all. Because God is the Word. He gave you this calling. So trust him to work through you, even on days when the pool and the sunlight and the birds are calling. For in the end, it’s all about him. And if he doesn’t write our books, we write in vain.

“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a (poor) first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren’t even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they’re doing it.”

― Anne Lamott, Bird by bird: some instructions on writing and life

I am excited to give away my debut novel, #PromiseInPieces, today! Just leave a note telling me why you’d like to win it, and we’ll choose a winner by the end of the week. If you can’t wait that long, you can order it HERE.


Emily T. Wierenga is an award-winning journalist, commissioned artist and columnist, as well as the author of four books including A Promise in Pieces, releasing April 15 with Abingdon Press, and Atlas Girl: Finding Home in the Last Place I Thought to Look (Baker Books), releasing July 1. She lives in Alberta, Canada with her husband and two sons. For more info, please visit www.emilywierenga.com. Find her on Twitter or Facebook.


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  1. Such wonderful tips, Emily! Thank you. And thank you for hosting them here, Kara :) Emily, I’d love to win your book because there is such beauty and soul breathed into your words. I find it difficult to carve out enough time to read,and I like to make the words I choose to fill that time really count.

  2. LeAnn Williams says:

    I really enjoyed this post. I like to write and I think the list is a great one. My blog is a missionary blog for Christ so this fits into my thinking.
    Blessings and hugs for this one!

  3. I heard about your book from Gretchen Louise! I love quilts and sometimes feel like I was born years too late. :) And to read your tips on writing…so inspiring yet to the point.

  4. Jemelene says:

    I need something beautiful to read.


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